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What Would Kalyn Wear?

Today’s question comes from B.R.:

Dear Kalyn –

I always enjoy your posts! So, how about some scarf wearing advice? How to wear a head scarf and not look crazy! I am an Hermes scarf junkie as well, but don’t want to ruin my affinity for Hermes during chemo! Any thoughts on less expensive alternatives, how to tie etc. Also not afraid to rock the baldy, so cute accessories suggestions would be welcome.

Yours truly,

B.R.

MY RESPONSE:

Dear B.R. –

Chemo … wow, first let me just say that the fact you have to go through chemo totally SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will certainly keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Head scarf advice? Hmm ….. you may actually like the shape of your head and find that a scarf isn’t necessary! You definitely have the perfect accouterments and now it’s just a matter of finding a fun way to wear them. For some quick scarf tying lessons, click here.  But, I must tell you that I’m having a love affair with turbans at the moment – I definitely think you could rock one or fold one of your scarves into one and feel quite chic no matter the occasion. Here’s a great step-by-step tutorial from e-How.com. Now you could go out and buy a funky vintage turban like this one by Christian Dior to channel your inner Turbanista.

Or, make your own with the scarves you already have.  Here’s a great pictorial on How-To-Tie-A-Turban from 100 Layer Cake:

Whatever you decide to do – au natural, fly headscarf, turban or baseball hat – you’ll be FABuLOUS! 

Sending you much love and positive vibes for a speedy recovery.

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas

And, I hope I look as festive as this Kate Spade model at half of the holiday parties I’ve been attending this month!  It’s been a crazy couple of weeks what with the pharma hack (who by the way was foiled by my amazing media guru), effie’s paper, holiday parties and gift buying to be done.  That said, although the blog is not as pretty as it used to be, stay tuned for our new look in 2012.  But in the meantime and in between time, I’m glad to be back and have all sorts of goodies to share with you.  Stay tuned ……  Happy Friday!!

 

What Would Kalyn Wear?

Today’s question comes from Diana S.

Dear Kalyn:

I’m 5 months pregnant and am getting ready to go on a beach vacation with my husband. It’s been a miserably hot Summer and I’ve been having a hard time feeling put together and attractive.  I’ve decided to treat myself to a few new items for our trip, but I’m not sure what to buy.  Any suggestions you might have are most welcome.

Thanks,

Diana S.

MY RESPONSE:

Dear Diana -

First of all, congratulations!  Give yourself a gold star for weathering this heat well.  I know very few people, male or female, pregnant or not, who’ve felt stylish in the 100 degree weather that has plagued us for most of the Summer.  Fret not, you will be fabulous on your beach vacay!  I like to keep it simple in the Summertime by wearing simple clothes that can be layered easily – a tank top, a maxi dress and an open sweater for example. This outfit can go from drop-off to dinner with the addition of a statement necklace dress and the right pair of shoes. Here are a few ideas to help you get into that cooler state of mind:

  • An ombre or tie-dye t-shirt in soft cotton is a great way to incorporate this trend without breaking the bank and it’s comfortable to boot. My favorite is by Splendid.
  • An open cardigan – it can be worn a bunch of different ways and can help to dress up even a simple t-shirt and jeans combo. Plus, it always good to have a sweater or shawl for the times when the A/C becomes too much. My fave is DKNY’s Cozy.
  • A maxi dress or two or three. They are soooo comfortable and easy to wear.  You can dress them up or down with accessories or shoes and they look great on all shapes.  Perfect for a day of walking around or dinner with the hubby at a smancy fancy restaurant.
  • Skinny jeans are the greatest thing since sliced bread, they help lengthen your proportions and look great with everything from a tank top to a sequin tunic. The Gap, JBrand and Liz Lange all have a great selection of maternity skinnies.
  • Wedges! Wedges give you great height, look good with everything from shorts to dresses and they provide a stable footbed I’m loving daniblack and Kate Spade at the moment – they’re not sky high and easy to walk in.
  • A pair of chuppals or Indian inspired bejeweled sandals – perfect for lounging by the pool or for nights when your feet are too tired for heels.
  • A man’s white dress or chambray shirt to wear when comfort is necessary but giving up style points is not. Channel your inner Lauren Hutton – wear it over a tank with jeans and great jewelry or wear it as a beach cover up; it can even replace your sweater from time to time if the mood hits you. The possibilities are endless!

Have a wonderfully stylish vacation Diana!

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

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What Would Kalyn Wear?

Today’s question comes from Portia M.

Kalyn -

We are hosting several holiday parties at our home this year. Can you recommend a comfortable yet stylishly festive hostess outfit?

Thanks!

– Portia M.

MY RESPONSE:

Dear Portia -

It’s hard to believe that it’s November and the holidays are upon us! It takes a lot to be the hostess with the mostess; the last thing one should be worried about as her shin-digs come up is what to wear.  Keep it simple.  Although the cold weather is fast approaching, when you’re meeting a greeting guests, mixing up a batches of cocktails, checking on things in the kitchen and generally trying to keep the party going you want to be free to move around comfortably.  Think back to the time when you were a kid and your parents had people over for parties.  What did your mom have on?  A caftan or loose-fitting outfit of some sort, right?  Those ladies were on to something!  Maybe it’s the Disco Diva in me, but the truth in fashion is that what goes around, comes around. Rachel Palley, Halston Heritage, Calypso-Celle, Roberto Cavalli and Diane von Furstenberg are just a few of the designers still turning out this classic wardrobe staple.

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

[images courtsey of Diane von Furstenberg, Halston Heritage & Roberto Cavalli]

What Would Kalyn Wear?

Today’s question comes from Jane who learned about Possess Your STYLE from a guest post I did on Corporette:

Hi -

I have recently returned to full-time work after being a mostly stay-at-home mom for 18 years. I have fallen into an absolutely great job in development for a brand new $110 million museum. Because I am in fundraising, I am in the public eye a lot, so I need to “dress up” every day.

Even at age 54, I keep up with fashion and will admit I look quite a big younger than I am, and people often mistake me for about 10 years younger. (All the women in my family are blessed this way!) I am 5’2″ and weigh about 110 lbs. However, I am definitely an apple. I gave birth to full-term twins 20 years ago and have an abdominal separation. The only way to take care of it is a tummy tuck, which for many reasons I am not going to do.

I’ve learned quite a few tricks about disguising the apple problem, such as wearing a column of color, drawing attention to my great legs and bust, never wearing tops tucked in, etc. But it is still a problem to shop and dress myself chic and fashionable. I wear a six in the bust and a four in the hips, but am more like a 10-12 in the waist and stomach. Without my clothes on, I literally look about five months pregnant.  Unfortunately, I also have IBS, so I suffer from bloating in the stomach during the day and a tightness in the waist is quite uncomfortable. Although I have several firm, shapewear pieces, I find them almost unbearable because of the IBS. I have lots of skirts and pants with flat elastic waists that I wear with a closed blazer. You can’t tell they’re elastic, and I know I look professional. But it is always a challenge.

Any tips for me?

Jane

MY RESPONSE:

Dear Jane -

Congratulations on landing such a fabulous job!  It sounds like you’re truly in your element.  It also sounds like you’ve got a very good sense of your shape and the parts you want to maximize as well as those you want to minimize. And, you’ve got a wardrobe filled with clothes that work for you.  To help you take things up a notch, my suggestion is that you invest in some a-line dresses, some empire waist dresses, wrap dresses, tunic tops and maybe a caftan or two.  While tunics can be casual they can also be dressy, Tory Burch has some great tunic tops made out of  interesting fabrics with all sorts of embellishment.  A caftan may not be on your radar screen, but Pineda Colavin (a Mexican designer) has some beautiful flowey tops that are great on their own but can be made even more interesting with the right accessories. You can wear each different ways – with slacks, jeans, leggings, belts, tucked in, etc.  They’re truly unique and I think will work well in the Arts world.

I’d love to hear which suggestions, if any, you decide to employ.

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

JANE’S REPLY:

Kalyn -

This is definitely a delayed THANK YOU to your response. I won’t go so far to say clothing has changed my life, but one of your ideas made a great difference!

Dresses. I don’t know why I never thought about dresses. With a closet full of skirts, pants and blazers, I realized I had just one work appropriate dress. A sheath with a nice jacket can look just as good as a suit. A dress can really hide my tummy issue and is more comfortable than a skirt. So I have invested in several dresses (after ordering, trying on and returning many!). I have been reading “How to Never Look Fat Again,” and am following many of the ideas for the buddah belly.

Once again, thanks! A big “duh” for me because I just forgot about the basic dress. I think I concentrated so hard on a suit that I forgot about the dress!

– Jane

What Would Kalyn Wear?

This week’s question comes from JT who asks:

Kalyn -

I’ve been invited to a black tie wedding this Fall.  I’m planning to wear a LBD, but I’m wondering if it’s ok to wear a black dress to a black tie wedding?  Kind of seems like it should be fine, but I’m not sure on the protocol here.

Thanks,

JT

MY RESPONSE:

Dearest JT -

Great question!  While it used to be believed that wearing black to a wedding was considered funereal, unless you plan to wear a black veil and cry into your hankie you’re probably fine wearing black to a black tie wedding.  While black is no longer considered a taboo color for wedding guests, white/ivory/cream are all colors to steer clear from.  There should be no one at the wedding other than the bride who looks like the bride.  However, to be certain about wearing black to a wedding, I’d err on the side of caution and ask the bride what her feelings are about it.  Nine times out of ten she’s not going to care as long as you’re dressed appropriately and not wearing anything that will show her up!  One other point, is that some cultures believe it’s bad luck for the bridal couple if guests wear black to a wedding, whether it’s black tie or not.  Another good reason to ask the bride or someone close to her whether black is appropriate.  And lastly, just a nit, unless a wedding invitation says “black tie optional,”"black tie” means long dresses for women.  Check with the bride to see what her preference is . . .

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

What Would Kalyn Wear?

Today’s email is from a reader who’s a bit ahead of the game and is beginning to prepare for temps below zero:

Kalyn -

I need you to talk about “to Fur” or not to “Fur” and how to wear it. Vests, coats, Fur no no’s and repurposing fur. I have had several friends to ask me where they can get a good furier that can chop up their moms’ coats!!

Thanks!

–M

MY RESPONSE:

Dearest M -

You know I absolutely LOVE fur!!!! And, it’s in this Season in all shapes, colors and textures.  As I’ve said previously on this blog: Now, let’s be clear – I love all kinds of fur – faux, vintage, new – I don’t discriminate.  Yes,  I’m aware of the ethical issues and I’ve worked those out for myself.  If you have issues with fur, you do and you’re not alone.  I’m not writing this posting to convince anyone to drink my particular brand of koolaid on this point. However, I am writing it because wearing fur, faux or real, is a luxurious experience.

So if you’re questioning whether wearing fur is for you, find a FAB faux fur. They’re available at all price points, in almost any style you can think of and just about any color too.  Fur is in this Season – jackets, coats, capes, vests, boots and hats.  You name it and someone is making it in fur, both faux and real.  If you’re not sure about this “trend”, start of slow.  Find a cool hat or maybe a vest to see if the whole fur thing works for you.

To buy a real fur or not?  A good friend of mine has vowed never to buy a new fur based on her ethical concerns.  However, she has almost as many furs in her wardrobe as I do (heck, who knows, she may have me beat by a mile!).  How? She only buys vintage furs.  Her rationale is simple — by buying vintage she’s not contributing to anything she considers unethical.  It works for her, may work for you too.

My friend is on to something though.  A great way to help green our environment is to re-purpose goods, whether that good happens to be a fur coat given to you by a relative or whether you buy a fur at a resale shop (don’t laugh, believe it or not, I’ve gotten some great furs from holes in the wall).  What I’m going to call vintage furs, anything made before 1970 in my book, are often very heavy and sometimes uncomfortable to wear.  Having older furs restyled can make them lighter and easier to wear. Plus, who wants to walk around in an old-lady looking fur coat?  Trust me, it totally defeats the feeling of luxuriousness!  Where to have a fur restyled depends on where you live.  If you’re looking for someone in New York, I have a few places to send you.  If you’re outside of the 5 burroughs, I suggest that you either go to a department store with a large fur section and make inquiries there or go to a specialty fur store (you know the one your mom, grandmother or aunt got her coat from).  If these folks can’t help you out, they will certainly be able to point you in the right direction.  Bring pictures of coats, jackets, capes etc. that you like (maybe you want the collar from one coat and the sleeve from another).  Also, depending on the type of fur you’re dealing with, you may want to consider having your newly restyled fur sheared.

The world is your oyster!  Stay warm this Winter in whatever kind of fur you’re most comfortable in.  I’m eyeing this cute little faux fur vest myself …..

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

What Would Kalyn Wear?

From time to time, I receive emails from friends, family members, clients and readers with questions about what to wear, how to wear a certain item, the best methods of cleaning a particular item, etc.  I usually answer these requests one-on-one, but I realized as I was reading the following email that these questions are questions most of us have from time-to-time, so I’ve created a new category called “What Would Kalyn Wear?”.  I’d love your feedback, and of course, please send along any questions you my have and I’ll see what I can do to get them answered for you!

This email is from a lucky reader on her way to Europe for the first time (London & Paris) next month:

Dear Kalyn,

I am traveling to London and Paris for the very first time. What are the wardrobe essentials for my trip?

Au revoir (See?…I’m practicing my French already),

SA

MY RESPONSE:

Dear SA -

Quelle excitement!  You know how much I love Paris . . . and London’s not too bad either, you go girl.

First, make sure you have a comfortable yet stylish pair of walking shoes. Europeans do a lot of walking.  Ballet flats are an admirable choice, but remember they’re really really flat, so you may want to find some cushy shoe inserts to give your feet some support.  Leave the flip-flops (and even the FitFlops) in the States.

Second, since you’re probably going to be doing a lot of walking, bring a totebag.  Not your LLBean tote, you want to go for something a little more fashionable since the goal here is to have the Euros thinking you’re one of them. Longchamp, Goyard and anything black and interesting will fit the bill.

Third, don’t leave home without a little neck-candy; the Euros do neck-candy so well! Either a silk scarf or a pashmina or both to tie around your bag’s handle, around your neck when in the AC or in the evening and around you as a shawl as night falls.  And fourth, minimize on your packing.  As tempting as it is to bring everything but the kitchen sink, think about your itinerary — do you really need to bring 3 pairs of heels?  If you do, go for it; BUT think about what you need before you pack.  Black ensembles are the quickest way to look and feel chic in cities filled with well-dressed European women.  And because you’ll know virtually no one, you can get away with mixing and matching your black pieces and no one will be any wiser.  And lastly, try your outfits on before you leave to insure that the image in your head is what you will see in the mirror.

Here’s a list of the staples I suggest you contemplate packing:  black leggings/jeggings; a crisp white shirt or blouse; a black short-sleeved or long-sleeved t-shirt; a LBD; one pair of heels; a pair of black trousers; a clutch bag; some sort of sweater coat, coat or jacket that is dressy enough to go out in (i.e., no jean jackets) and accessories that will help to pull your outfits together and dress them up as well as down.  Travel stylishly my dear. Bon voyage!

Stylishly yours,

Kalyn

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